Egos and Being Remarkable

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Everyone has greatness in them. The challenge is how we express it. We can push ourselves to rise to the challenge, or we can encourage others to greatness (and, in turn, encourage ourselves at the same time).

Everyone also has an ego. Some are kept in check – some are left to rage uncontrollably. Some have a happy medium in-between. Are our ego’s stopping us from being remarkable?

Often we don’t like to admit we don’t know something. We want people to think we’re invincible, that their trust in us is warranted. That we are the fountain of knowledge to their stream of questions. But we’re not. None of us.

But that’s not a bad thing. Seriously.

We are who we are because we learned what we know. How did we learn that? From those that knew and wanted to share. Not keep it to themselves as leverage over everyone else. Not use it as a power base over less-informed people. Not use it to stroke their own ego.

Ego’s are natural. We’re human beings – we like to feel we’re important in some way or another. And we are – each and every one of us. We all do great things every day. Does that mean we’re better than others that do “lesser” things? Can you define lesser? Is there such a thing when it comes to offering hope through belief?

I don’t think so and I know I’m not the only one.

Look around you. There are people that could have huge ego’s if they wanted to. People that continuously  encourage others to challenge themselves to be better. People that are selfless in their determination to make life better for those that need it the most. People that have taken an idea and ran with it to make it their own.

These are the people that could have ego’s but don’t.

So what ego’s are stopping us from growing? What ones are putting us in a pen and keeping the gate locked? You might recognize some.

  • Business leaders. Your employees are your currency. Offer them a voice for their ideas, not a muzzle.
  • Educators. Your students are the leaders of tomorrow in the brains of today. Don’t silence their probing – encourage it.
  • Business consultants. Your clients are counting on you. If you don’t know something (which sometimes you won’t), admit it. Agree to find the answer together and make something truly great.

We all know people who offer belief. People who offer hope. We also know (often in equal measure) people who crush that belief simply through distorted ego. Sometimes it’s deliberate; sometimes it’s not. Either one is just as powerful as the other.

Belief is hope. Ego is the wall that can block that hope. How you scale the wall is up to you.

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20 Responses to Egos and Being Remarkable
  1. James Topham
    January 27, 2009 | 2:11 am

    We do it by talking. What I've learnt from SM platforms like Twitter and the like is that if you ask advice, you get it. Pretending that you know when you don't is a one-way street to screwing up. Everyone would prefer you to say 'not a clue, how about you?' than bluff your way through it. Clients, colleagues, friends – everyone. Not knowing is not a bad thing – you just don't know. And the person who does probably hasn't heard Bowie's French version of Heroes. Are you going to judge? Really?

  2. Jen
    January 27, 2009 | 2:19 am

    I was just reading a book by Wayne Dyer tonight and at one point he makes the statement:

    no ego = no problems
    big ego = big problems

    Whoa! I was startled by the powerful simplicity of this idea. I know in my heart of hearts that my ego is the only thing standing between me and pure greatness, joy, peace and love. Most of the time, I count my blessings and walk around in a little bubble of happiness. Ahh… I love my bubble. But other times, I can't stop my brain from wondering what people will think of me if I step out of the lines I help to create. "Get over yourself (ego) and go for it" I say to myself.

    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." ~Marianne Williamson

    Word up, Marianne.

    Deep stuff, Buddy. Thanks for writing.

  3. James Topham
    January 27, 2009 | 6:11 am

    We do it by talking. What I've learnt from SM platforms like Twitter and the like is that if you ask advice, you get it. Pretending that you know when you don't is a one-way street to screwing up. Everyone would prefer you to say 'not a clue, how about you?' than bluff your way through it. Clients, colleagues, friends – everyone. Not knowing is not a bad thing – you just don't know. And the person who does probably hasn't heard Bowie's French version of Heroes. Are you going to judge? Really?

    • Danny Brown
      January 27, 2009 | 2:27 pm

      And therein lies the biggest stumbling block, I think – the "I don't know but you're not going to know I don't". Pride, ego – whatever you wish to label it, it's a deal breaker. And now I want to hunt down that version of Heroes…

  4. Jen
    January 27, 2009 | 6:19 am

    I was just reading a book by Wayne Dyer tonight and at one point he makes the statement:

    no ego = no problems
    big ego = big problems

    Whoa! I was startled by the powerful simplicity of this idea. I know in my heart of hearts that my ego is the only thing standing between me and pure greatness, joy, peace and love. Most of the time, I count my blessings and walk around in a little bubble of happiness. Ahh… I love my bubble. But other times, I can't stop my brain from wondering what people will think of me if I step out of the lines I help to create. "Get over yourself (ego) and go for it" I say to myself.

    "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." ~Marianne Williamson

    Word up, Marianne.

    Deep stuff, Buddy. Thanks for writing.

    • Danny Brown
      January 27, 2009 | 2:28 pm

      Sounds like Wayne and Marianne were onto something there, Jen. :)

      It is a matter of just "getting over it" and pushing on. It is easier said than done for a lot of the times, but who said reaching as high as we can was going to be easy?

  5. fendergurl
    January 27, 2009 | 9:06 am

    "Belief is hope. Ego is the wall that can block that hope."

    Danny, you have hit the proverbial nail on the head.

    There are so many things that can hold us back from achieving our best which are outside influences in this world…why must we generate something from within that separates us from our peers and distances us from the connectedness that might help to push us forward?

    Ego is unavoidable. How we balance the ego and it's weight in our lives is what makes all the difference.

  6. Clint Stonebraker
    January 27, 2009 | 9:23 am

    Great post. As a business owner it is critical to continue to learn and to share my knowledge with others. Beware of the person who claims to have all of the answers, he or she likely has none.

  7. Danny Brown
    January 27, 2009 | 10:27 am

    And therein lies the biggest stumbling block, I think – the "I don't know but you're not going to know I don't". Pride, ego – whatever you wish to label it, it's a deal breaker. And now I want to hunt down that version of Heroes…

  8. Danny Brown
    January 27, 2009 | 10:28 am

    Sounds like Wayne and Marianne were onto something there, Jen. :)

    It is a matter of just "getting over it" and pushing on. It is easier said than done for a lot of the times, but who said reaching as high as we can was going to be easy?

  9. fendergurl
    January 27, 2009 | 1:06 pm

    "Belief is hope. Ego is the wall that can block that hope."

    Danny, you have hit the proverbial nail on the head.

    There are so many things that can hold us back from achieving our best which are outside influences in this world…why must we generate something from within that separates us from our peers and distances us from the connectedness that might help to push us forward?

    Ego is unavoidable. How we balance the ego and it's weight in our lives is what makes all the difference.

  10. Clint Stonebraker
    January 27, 2009 | 1:23 pm

    Great post. As a business owner it is critical to continue to learn and to share my knowledge with others. Beware of the person who claims to have all of the answers, he or she likely has none.

  11. johnhaydon
    January 27, 2009 | 3:24 pm

    Danny,

    Execellent post – really about the value of knowledge (which is limited), and wisdom (which is limitless). Sharing knowledge might help on a tactical level – if that knowledge is a good fit. Hope, on the otherhand, powers another person towards victory. Funny thing about hope is it's expansive quality. When I encourage another person – "You can do it!" – I feel encouraged. It's like a hope boomerang!

    John

  12. John Haydon
    Twitter: johnhaydon
    January 27, 2009 | 7:24 pm

    Danny,

    Execellent post – really about the value of knowledge (which is limited), and wisdom (which is limitless). Sharing knowledge might help on a tactical level – if that knowledge is a good fit. Hope, on the otherhand, powers another person towards victory. Funny thing about hope is it's expansive quality. When I encourage another person – "You can do it!" – I feel encouraged. It's like a hope boomerang!

    John

    • Danny
      March 18, 2009 | 12:37 pm

      I would buy that hope boomerang, John – send me the details! :)

  13. Danny
    March 18, 2009 | 12:37 pm

    I would buy that hope boomerang, John – send me the details! :)

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