Comments on: Picking Your Fights http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/ The Human Side of Media and the Social Side of Marketing Mon, 13 Feb 2012 06:36:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Danny http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29626 Danny Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:40:22 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29626 Exactly, John. Let the others look like a douche; make sure you have facts on your side and humble dissent in your tone, and you're halfway there. Exactly, John.

Let the others look like a douche; make sure you have facts on your side and humble dissent in your tone, and you’re halfway there.

]]> By: Danny http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29625 Danny Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:39:25 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29625 Great point Richard - battles come and go, but unless we understand why they happened and how to avoid them next time, we'll never move forward. Great point Richard – battles come and go, but unless we understand why they happened and how to avoid them next time, we’ll never move forward.

]]> By: Danny http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29624 Danny Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:35:53 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29624 See, I love that approach Judy. It's not belittling anyone; it's not saying, "Ah, I told you so." It's offering others the chance to learn from mistakes or misunderstandings. And that's the only way any of us will ever grow. Thanks for sharing that! :) See, I love that approach Judy. It’s not belittling anyone; it’s not saying, “Ah, I told you so.”

It’s offering others the chance to learn from mistakes or misunderstandings. And that’s the only way any of us will ever grow.

Thanks for sharing that! :)

]]> By: Danny http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29623 Danny Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:34:33 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29623 It would appear the picture is pretty popular, Mickey, had a lot of good feedback on it. :) Perception is everything, isn't it? What cost do our "victories" take out of us? Someone once said there are three sides to everything - your version, their version and the truth. Same could be said for hollow victories... It would appear the picture is pretty popular, Mickey, had a lot of good feedback on it. :)

Perception is everything, isn’t it? What cost do our “victories” take out of us? Someone once said there are three sides to everything – your version, their version and the truth.

Same could be said for hollow victories…

]]> By: Danny http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29622 Danny Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:32:17 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29622 A back story, you say..? ;-) Couldn't agree more, mate. Passion and belief in what's right is one thing, but when it clouds your judgement, it becomes a problem. A back story, you say..? ;-)

Couldn’t agree more, mate. Passion and belief in what’s right is one thing, but when it clouds your judgement, it becomes a problem.

]]> By: Danny http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29621 Danny Sat, 31 Jul 2010 12:30:40 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29621 I hear you, Tim. Often public discourse goes way beyond the two sides - you then than connections to the sides jumping in, communities of both taking shots, and more. The recent dust-up between Matt Mullenweg and Chris Pearson over Wordpress/Thesis is a perfect example (although I'd say Matt definitely came out the better of the two, perception-wise). As John mentions, if the fight is worthy then stand your ground; but make sure ego doesn't blinker your views. I hear you, Tim. Often public discourse goes way beyond the two sides – you then than connections to the sides jumping in, communities of both taking shots, and more.

The recent dust-up between Matt Mullenweg and Chris Pearson over WordPress/Thesis is a perfect example (although I’d say Matt definitely came out the better of the two, perception-wise).

As John mentions, if the fight is worthy then stand your ground; but make sure ego doesn’t blinker your views.

]]> By: John Haydon http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29502 John Haydon Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:55:29 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29502 A couple of thoughts here. You cannot control whether your "opponent" will fight with respect and dignity, but you can. The decision to fight or surrender should be made with a long-term vision in mind - for the relationship and for your self-respect. Nice one, Danny! A couple of thoughts here.

You cannot control whether your “opponent” will fight with respect and dignity, but you can.

The decision to fight or surrender should be made with a long-term vision in mind – for the relationship and for your self-respect.

Nice one, Danny!

]]> By: John Haydon http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29497 John Haydon Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:49:24 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29497 Tim - I try and stay out of the muck as well, unless it's a worthy fight - about respect, justice, dignity. Tim – I try and stay out of the muck as well, unless it’s a worthy fight – about respect, justice, dignity.

]]> By: RIchard A Marti Jr http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29494 RIchard A Marti Jr Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:34:37 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29494 Great post Danny, Even the struggle withing of whether to fight or not is in itself A fight. I have often fought for what I believe, to be understood, for others who needed help. When I look back, many of those battles could have been avoided or resolved with a better outcome if I had only approached them differently. Not from a position to defend, but from a sense of wonder and question. From a desire to understand. From that desire, even battles that end, do so without sinking both ships. Great post Danny, Even the struggle withing of whether to fight or not is in itself A fight. I have often fought for what I believe, to be understood, for others who needed help. When I look back, many of those battles could have been avoided or resolved with a better outcome if I had only approached them differently. Not from a position to defend, but from a sense of wonder and question. From a desire to understand. From that desire, even battles that end, do so without sinking both ships.

]]> By: Judy Dunn http://dannybrown.me/2010/07/29/picking-your-fights/#comment-29491 Judy Dunn Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:00:48 +0000 http://dannybrown.me/?p=12803#comment-29491 Danny, I love this post. And I agree with what Mickey said. Walking away does not mean surrender. I had a dear friend I worked with in education for many years. When we discussed something that I knew the answer to, she would say, "No, you're wrong." I would let it go. But it was fun to see the a-ha moment when she discovered her mistake. No words were exchanged but she knew and I knew. For me personally, I'd just rather that people discover truths for themselves. Maybe that kind of thing comes with aging, huh? And deciding which battles are worth fighting and do we really want to die on this hill? Danny,

I love this post. And I agree with what Mickey said. Walking away does not mean surrender.

I had a dear friend I worked with in education for many years. When we discussed something that I knew the answer to, she would say, “No, you’re wrong.”

I would let it go. But it was fun to see the a-ha moment when she discovered her mistake. No words were exchanged but she knew and I knew. For me personally, I’d just rather that people discover truths for themselves.

Maybe that kind of thing comes with aging, huh? And deciding which battles are worth fighting and do we really want to die on this hill?

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