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Iggy Pintado

This is a guest post by my friend Iggy Pintado. Iggy is the Director of Marketing, Sustainability & Innovation at UXC Connect . He is also a professional speaker and author of the book, Connection Generation. You can find Iggy on Twitter at @IggyPintado. This blog post was inspired by a conversation between Iggy and his daughter Rachel on a recent road trip.

1. How would you like it if someone did that to you?

The old adage of “do-to-others-as-you-would-have-done-to-you” is as much a religious commandment as it is social media principle numero uno.

2. Are you going out looking like that?

Make sure your profile – posts, photos, videos, etc. – reflect who you are and how you want to be perceived online.

3. If you can’t say anything good about someone, don’t say it all.

Be nice to people and try to be positive. That’s all.

4. Don’t play with fire.

If you know someone or something isn’t good, don’t engage – you’ll just get burned.

5. If you go cross-eyed and the wind changes, it’ll be permanent.

Unlike this advice, whatever you DO post online, stays online. You may think it doesn’t but the truth is – it does.

6. Do you kiss your mother with that mouth?

Keep it clean. Don’t use words your mother finds offensive. Watch the words you use – people are listening and judging.

7. Everything in moderation.

Careful with over-sharing and potential spamming. Also, watch that you don’t spend too much time online that it consumes you.

8. Think before you speak.

Watch what you say. If angry, count to ten first before responding. If really angry, sleep on it and answer after a good night’s rest.

9. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

You may want to try more than one social media platform. Don’t just blog, Facebook and Tweet. Use Linkedin for business connections.

10. Go clean your room!

Make sure your social media presences are updated. It’s worth posting regularly on your blog and updating your Facebook profile.

Which one’s your favorite? Can you think of any more? All comments welcome!

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72 Comments on "10 Things Your Parents Told You That Still Apply to Social Media"


Efren
4 years 1 month ago

If you want keep a secret, Dont tell anyone!
Muy bueno, hay que seguir las reglas básicas

ed_han
4 years 3 months ago

That was excellent! I cannot believe how often these simple things we all knew in kindergarten are forgotten so easily.

SandraRobinson
4 years 4 months ago

This is fabulous. I wish everyone would read it (sharing on my FB wall!).

SerinaKelly
4 years 4 months ago

Absolutely love this post – so much I posted it on my blog with giving credit to you and Iggy – still learning about blogging etiquette, so if I crossed a line, please let me know.

The older I get, the more wise my parents have become :). Great advice. Thanks!

SerinaKelly
4 years 4 months ago

@DannyBrown It will be posted for all in my small circle of friends tomorrow. Thank you for the comment and the reassurance. Looking forward to reading and learning more from you and those you give real estate too :).

DannyBrown
4 years 4 months ago

@SerinaKelly Hey there Serina,

Thank you – though I think full credit goes to @iggypintado – I just gave him the real estate :)

And no blogging etiquette broken – you could actually teach some folks a thing or two about attribution, it would seem! :)

KellyPoelker
4 years 4 months ago

Great post. What’s interesting is now the roles have reversed and we’re now teaching our parents these things for social media.

maxoz
4 years 4 months ago

“Tell me who admires and loves you, and I will tell you who you are” –
Antoine de Saint-Exupery – remember who your target audience is and what that says about you or your business!
Focus on quality rather than quantity [& that is my recommendation
I’ll shut up now … cheers Michele

ambercleveland
4 years 4 months ago

So what you’re saying is that my mom has always know what she was talking about. LOL. Thanks for a light, easy to follow, and informative post. I think that the people who participate in #SMmanners chat would like this.

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@ambercleveland You know, funnily enough, I thought of the #SMmanners chat when @iggypintado sent me his post. You’re right, it’d be a perfect fit.

And yes – moms definitely know best! ;-)

eCusty
4 years 4 months ago

I can completely relate to this! Not only do I try and think about these little rules but with my recent addition of my father to my Facebook I definitely seem to consider this one, “Are you going out looking like that?”

As I post pictures to my wall, not only do I stop and think about future employees but I start thinking about my dad! And trust me it’s not like my dad finds humor in a lot when it comes to his little girl.

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@eCusty Ha, I think parents going onto Facebook has changed the way a lot of folks interact on that platform, Elizabeth. ;-)

And being the father of a little girl, I see where you’re coming from completely with your last sentence. :)

kayleighford
4 years 4 months ago

Hilarious! Great post :D

CaroleRiley
4 years 4 months ago

What about ‘Don’t talk to strangers’? Could lead to a discussion with your kids about befriending people in Facebook, etc, that they don’t know personally.

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@CaroleRiley I’ve started being more judicious when it comes to my personal Facebook profile, Carole. Not so much from a “I don’t want to…” mindset – more from what I’ve seen some folks post, and it’s not something I’d want to be attached too.

And as recent stories have shown (the sad case of the teen suicide in the U.S. after his meeting with a guy was broadcast on Facebook), it’s even more important to be 100% comfortable with who you’re connected with.

TJWalker
4 years 4 months ago

Great ideas to focus on. Sometimes the best advice isn’t stunningly original. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t great advice.

DanielSharkov
4 years 4 months ago

Those are some great tips. Making a relation between parents’ words and social media is a great idea. Strangely how many advices apply in both cases.

Suellen_Hughes
4 years 4 months ago

Great post Iggy. As a mother now myself, I wonder whether I’ll be saying these things to my son…probably.

One that sprang to mind for me and that I know that I’ve already said “just because everyone else is doing it, doesn’t mean you have to do it” how might that one apply? I watch what others are doing and “supposedly” making millions and think, should I just go that cheap, easy way too? Then I remember my mum’s wise words and stay true to my values….but what if I applied that thinking to Twitter, Facebook, Blogging etc?

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@Suellen_Hughes One of the things my company always tells clients is that social media may not be for them – at least, not all of social media. You have to pick platforms where you’re both strong and can really allocate yourself to be there.

Like you (rightly) say, just because others are doing something doesn’t mean you need to as well. Do what feels right and feels like you. :)

connect2mums
4 years 4 months ago

LOVE these Iggy!! Nice work.

maxOz
4 years 4 months ago

Thanks Iggy & Danny … that’s what I believe social media is all about.Back to those good ‘old fashioned’ values … one more to add that my mother instilled in us at a very early age … ‘you lay down with dogs, you get up with flees’
Great Post!!!
Cheers
Michele Smorgon @maxOz

maxoz
4 years 4 months ago

@DannyBrown @maxOz Thanks Danny, I have lots of these ‘pearls [& not so pearls] of wisdom’ Cheers Michele

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@maxoz @maxOz Never heard that saying before, Michele, but it’s going on my list of cool ones – cheers! :)

maidoesimple
4 years 4 months ago

Very nice list, I didn’t think about the similarities but indeed they are there.

rwoodemarketer
4 years 4 months ago

Thanks for the plain English wisdom Iggy and Danny…just the voice for social media. Lets listen.

brandonacox
4 years 4 months ago

My parents taught me never to fry balogna naked. That one definitely applies to social media!!… I’m just not sure how yet. But it’s good wisdom to follow – just like your post, Danny!

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@brandonacox Ha, can’t argue with that advice, Brandon :)

My grandfather once told me that if I remember one thing in life, it’s to stand up before I flush. I didn’t ask him what made that stand out for him; but I’ve stuck to it ever since ;-)

Glad you enjoyed @iggypintado ‘s post :)

JacStar
4 years 4 months ago

here’s another one. “it’s not WHAT you said, it’s HOW you said it” – I got that one a lot on account of, I’m a big bitch. How it applies to social media? Well no one wants to be talked down to, your condescending babble is only hurting yourself

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@JacStar Another great one – cheers. And who called you that?

lisahickey
4 years 4 months ago

I agree that the simple truths like these help the online experience become more like the real-world one. And if everyone can just remember to treat others with respect — ahhhh.

But I also wonder if we worry so much about how to shape our *own* image that we let that get in the way of really connecting, understanding and believing in other people despite the many ‘flaws’ most of us have. I hope that the online experience — and the ability to connect with some many people who not only share our viewpoint but *don’t* share our views — will ultimately help make us all less judgmental and the world a better place.

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@lisahickey So true, Lisa, and something we all need to remember. Whenever I’m helping folks get acquainted online – whether it’s friends or clients – I try and emphasize to always be yourself and not lose track of what matters to you. Yes, be respectful, but don’t be too respectful that you lose your own voice as well.

JulieWalraven
4 years 4 months ago

Think before you speak and watch where you post it. When I was new to Twitter, I didn’t really get who could see what I was saying. Now more likely, I need to watch closely to make sure my DM stayed a DM. A backdoor conversation without context sounds really strange or worse on the front page.

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@JulieWalraven Ha, I ‘m with you on that Julie. Adding to that, perhaps Don’t Drink and Tweet ;-)

JourneyJottings
4 years 4 months ago

Perhaps another one ~
Look at your contacts in the eye and engage with them ~
With so much of our lives conversing from behind a screen (computer) the social niceties of reaching out to celebrate their wins and console in their losses shouldn’t be lost –
Linda

iggypintado
4 years 4 months ago

@JourneyJottings Got to get you on #RealTweeple !! (my YouTube project!

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@JourneyJottings One of the reasons I like video blogs (or video conference meetings) – it replicates the very “look in the eye” approach you mention here. And there’s nothing better at seeing how trustful someone is by looking them in the eye. Great point :)

SuuperG
4 years 4 months ago

I’m thinking “Don’t talk to strangers.” wouldn’t apply ;) Nice post. Concise and useful! G

hollingsworth
4 years 4 months ago

Great post Iggy, and spot on. I like 2, 7 and 10:
– Are you going out looking like that?
– Everything in moderation.
– Go clean your room!

We often forget about just how many “web presences” we set up and perhaps no longer update or maintain. How do you find them all and check? Start with some healthy “Egosuring” ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Egosurfing ) to check that what’s out there is what you’d be happy to take home to mother (“the mum rule”)

hollingsworth
4 years 4 months ago

Great post Iggy, and spot on. I like 2, 7 and 10:
– Are you going out looking like that?
– Everything in moderation.
– Go clean your room!

We often forget about just how many “web presences” we set up and perhaps no longer update or maintain. How do you find them all and check? Start with some healthy “Egosuring” ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Egosurfing ) to check that what’s out there is what you’d be happy to take home to mother (“the mum rule”

JackiesJungle
4 years 4 months ago

As always mommy knows best

MonikaVA
4 years 4 months ago

Great post Iggy & Danny. How about adding “Share” to the list of 10?

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@MonikaVA Not a bad suggestion at all, Monika – thank you. :)

ariherzog
4 years 4 months ago

Agreed on multiple baskets, but don’t dive into them. If overwhelmed, that’s a bad sign. Baby steps are good.

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@ariherzog Sage words as usual, Ari – cheers, sir.

KarenMorris
4 years 4 months ago

Great post Iggy. Couldn’t agree more. It never ceases to amaze me that people think the online “world” is some alien space. It’s normal human interaction and therefore the rules of playing nice apply equally here.

I’ll add another one: Don’t gossip (that’s the polite way of saying it, as this usually applies to girls!) Make sure you keep your personal opinions about people to yourself, or take it up with them personally in a private domain. Everything you say will get back to them eventually – especially online!

KarenMorris
4 years 4 months ago

@DannyBrown Oh, I totally agree on the open discussion of opinions and facts. I was referring more to expressing your opions about a person themselves, rather than perhaps actions they’ve taken or things they’ve said that you may take issue with. Avoiding the ‘he’s this’ or ‘she’s that’ stance. Disagreeing with comments made by someone in open discussion is all part of healthy human debate.

KarenMorris
4 years 4 months ago

@DannyBrown Oh, I totally agree on the open discussion of opinions and facts. I was referring more to expressing your opions about a person themselves, rather than perhaps actions they’ve taken or things they’ve said that you may take issue with. Avoiding the ‘he’s this’ or ‘she’s that’ stance. Disagreeing with comments made by someone in open discussion is all part of healthy human debate.

Dannybrown
4 years 4 months ago

@KarenMorris I think sometimes it’s necessary to offer an opinion about someone, or something. Obviously as long as it’s not too personal, or derogatory for the sake of being derogatory through dislike, for example.

But rebutting a wrong fact, or voicing your take on someone’s views in your industry – I think they can be useful in keeping opinions open on what could be an otherwise one-sided take?

Thanks for stopping by, Karen, and glad you enjoyed Iggy’s post. :)

KarenMorris
4 years 4 months ago

Great post Iggy. Couldn’t agree more. It never ceases to amaze me that people think the online “world” is some alien space. It’s normal human interaction and therefore the rules of playing nice apply equally here.

I’ll add another one: Don’t gossip (that’s the polite way of saying it, as this usually applies to girls!) Make sure you keep your personal opions about people to yourself, or take it up with them personally in a private domain. Everything you say will get back to them eventually – especially online!