bad day

We all have them. Bad days that make us wonder why we do what we do, whether in our own business or for our employer.

Or we wonder why we’re with our partners when we have an argument. Or we see the size of our email inbox and wish we could just skip the day and begin again tomorrow.

But are we really having such a bad day?

I took my dogs out for a walk this morning, and one of them crapped on a snail. I mean, seriously – how bad does your day have to be to look up and find that someone is shitting on your house?

So, yeah, we may be having bad days. But do they compare to a child beaten and abused by their parents, or bullied at school?

Do they compare to a good, law-abiding person fighting terminal illness and wondering why that rapist lived to 97?

Do they compare to people that are jailed and tortured for wanting to live in a democracy?

Maybe we feel like nothing can be worse than the day we’re currently having. But if all we have to complain about is the noise of social media, or the commute to work, or the amount of emails we still have to answer, or the waitress not getting our drink order right, or a myriad of other things, ask yourself one thing.

Is it really all that bad?

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Danny Brown
Co-author Influence Marketing: How to Create, Manage and Measure Brand Influencers in Social Media Marketing. #1 marketing blog in world as per HubSpot. Husband. Father. Optimist. Pragmatist. Never says no to a good single malt. You can find me on Twitter - Google+ - LinkedIn.
189 comments
Walter
Walter

To be honest, having a bad day, whether of small or gigantic proportion, has the same effect on the person experiencing it. I believe that looking at the bright side of life is the best way to veer our focus on such negative experience.

Just a thought. :-)

Walter
Walter

To be honest, having a bad day, whether of small or gigantic proportion, has the same effect on the person experiencing it. I believe that looking at the bright side of life is the best way to veer our focus on such negative experience.

Just a thought. :-)

Walter
Walter

To be honest, having a bad day, whether of small or gigantic proportion, has the same effect on the person experiencing it. I believe that looking at the bright side of life is the best way to veer our focus on such negative experience. Just a thought. :-)

Social Marketing Dynamics
Social Marketing Dynamics

There is always someone who has it worse. And we really need reality check sometimes. And it true that we should always look at the bright side or think positively whenever we experience bad day.

Social Marketing Dynamics
Social Marketing Dynamics

There is always someone who has it worse. And we really need reality check sometimes. And it true that we should always look at the bright side or think positively whenever we experience bad day.

Barry
Barry

Isn't it true we all need a reality check sometimes? Often after checking the bank balance lol. I am reading a book that was shared to me called 90 Minutes in Heaven. I am not a deeply religious man (although leaning more as I am getting older) the man in the book is basically going through hell after a tragic car accident. The pain could get no worse. Now this part will sound crazy coming from a guy who's tribe involved the parting of the red sea ;), but he then thought about Jesus and the pain he went though. Nothing could compare. Now even I can realize no matter what I believed, he was tortured without mercy. It actually made me close the book and ponder my own life. Seems since I just read your post and just reading this book, a message is trying to get through to me.

Have a great weekend and thanks for posting.

Barry
Barry

Isn't it true we all need a reality check sometimes? Often after checking the bank balance lol. I am reading a book that was shared to me called 90 Minutes in Heaven. I am not a deeply religious man (although leaning more as I am getting older) the man in the book is basically going through hell after a tragic car accident. The pain could get no worse. Now this part will sound crazy coming from a guy who's tribe involved the parting of the red sea ;), but he then thought about Jesus and the pain he went though. Nothing could compare. Now even I can realize no matter what I believed, he was tortured without mercy. It actually made me close the book and ponder my own life. Seems since I just read your post and just reading this book, a message is trying to get through to me. Have a great weekend and thanks for posting.

ryder
ryder

AT least you made my day..ha ha..just when I thought I was having a bad day. I woke up feeling so empty..for no reason whatsoever,...well the truth is there was but...

ryder
ryder

AT least you made my day..ha ha..just when I thought I was having a bad day. I woke up feeling so empty..for no reason whatsoever,...well the truth is there was but...

Alex
Alex

I feel you! We all have bad days but if we always look on the positive side, it will stop us from comparing our lives to other people.

Alex
Alex

I feel you! We all have bad days but if we always look on the positive side, it will stop us from comparing our lives to other people.

Extreme John
Extreme John

I agree with Ari - everything is relative. Whilst it may be too bad of a day for you but for some, it may just be ordinary. I could say having a bad day depends really on a person's mood and physical state - sometimes it's just a mind over matter thing. But what's important is at the end of a day, you can still hope for a positive tomorrow.

Extreme John
Extreme John

I agree with Ari - everything is relative. Whilst it may be too bad of a day for you but for some, it may just be ordinary. I could say having a bad day depends really on a person's mood and physical state - sometimes it's just a mind over matter thing. But what's important is at the end of a day, you can still hope for a positive tomorrow.

Extreme John
Extreme John

I agree with Ari - everything is relative. Whilst it may be too bad of a day for you but for some, it may just be ordinary. I could say having a bad day depends really on a person's mood and physical state - sometimes it's just a mind over matter thing. But what's important is at the end of a day, you can still hope for a positive tomorrow.

Ari Herzog
Ari Herzog

Everything is relative. One person's good is another's bad, and when you look at everything in a vacuum, what's really bad and what's really good?

Deep questions, Danny. Bring 'em on.

Ari Herzog
Ari Herzog

Everything is relative. One person's good is another's bad, and when you look at everything in a vacuum, what's really bad and what's really good? Deep questions, Danny. Bring 'em on.

Ingrid Abboud
Ingrid Abboud

You must have read my state of mind this morning Danny because what you said here is very close to what I was thinking.

You're right in that we all have bad days - and we can sit and whine about them as much as we want - but if we take just one second and compare ourselves to those people who don't have 1/100th of what we have then we'll realize that our bad day is a blessing compared to others.

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. And while all I could think of is me, me, me and all that's wrong in my life and what I should have and could have done better or more of - I took a small step back once I was done and laughed at myself. I reminded myself to think of the 98% that's good instead of the 2% that's bad. Wouldn't it be great if we could all remember to focus on that 98 percent more often?

It's often a matter of perspective. If you can realize or acknowledge what you already have that's amazing instead of what you don't, then you might laugh at your bad day a little more often.

I've lived in the third world so I know those people who are fighting for democracy are. The one's who are fighting for the bare minimum.

Material things don't make our days. It's our health and the people in our lives that do. I hope to remember that more often myself.

Thanks for writing the post that I wish I had written myself. You continue to be such an inspiration my dear friend.

Wishing you and your family a wonderful weekend.
Cheers

PS - As for your dog and snail story - I think there's an amazing story/lesson there that I'd love to read in The Parables of Business II someday ;).

Ingrid Abboud
Ingrid Abboud

You must have read my state of mind this morning Danny because what you said here is very close to what I was thinking.

You're right in that we all have bad days - and we can sit and whine about them as much as we want - but if we take just one second and compare ourselves to those people who don't have 1/100th of what we have then we'll realize that our bad day is a blessing compared to others.

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. And while all I could think of is me, me, me and all that's wrong in my life and what I should have and could have done better or more of - I took a small step back once I was done and laughed at myself. I reminded myself to think of the 98% that's good instead of the 2% that's bad. Wouldn't it be great if we could all remember to focus on that 98 percent more often?

It's often a matter of perspective. If you can realize or acknowledge what you already have that's amazing instead of what you don't, then you might laugh at your bad day a little more often.

I've lived in the third world so I know those people who are fighting for democracy are. The one's who are fighting for the bare minimum.

Material things don't make our days. It's our health and the people in our lives that do. I hope to remember that more often myself.

Thanks for writing the post that I wish I had written myself. You continue to be such an inspiration my dear friend.

Wishing you and your family a wonderful weekend.
Cheers

PS - As for your dog and snail story - I think there's an amazing story/lesson there that I'd love to read in The Parables of Business II someday ;).

Ingrid Abboud
Ingrid Abboud

You must have read my state of mind this morning Danny because what you said here is very close to what I was thinking. You're right in that we all have bad days - and we can sit and whine about them as much as we want - but if we take just one second and compare ourselves to those people who don't have 1/100th of what we have then we'll realize that our bad day is a blessing compared to others. I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. And while all I could think of is me, me, me and all that's wrong in my life and what I should have and could have done better or more of - I took a small step back once I was done and laughed at myself. I reminded myself to think of the 98% that's good instead of the 2% that's bad. Wouldn't it be great if we could all remember to focus on that 98 percent more often? It's often a matter of perspective. If you can realize or acknowledge what you already have that's amazing instead of what you don't, then you might laugh at your bad day a little more often. I've lived in the third world so I know those people who are fighting for democracy are. The one's who are fighting for the bare minimum. Material things don't make our days. It's our health and the people in our lives that do. I hope to remember that more often myself. Thanks for writing the post that I wish I had written myself. You continue to be such an inspiration my dear friend. Wishing you and your family a wonderful weekend. Cheers PS - As for your dog and snail story - I think there's an amazing story/lesson there that I'd love to read in The Parables of Business II someday ;).

margie clayman (@margieclayman)
margie clayman (@margieclayman)

Ready for my most insightful comment ever?

This post is the kind that keeps me coming back to your blog again and again :)

Yeah...try to digest THAT thought. Oh, you're done already...hmm....:)

margie clayman (@margieclayman)
margie clayman (@margieclayman)

Ready for my most insightful comment ever? This post is the kind that keeps me coming back to your blog again and again :) Yeah...try to digest THAT thought. Oh, you're done already...hmm....:)

Chief Alien
Chief Alien

Not sure where I used Joe the Plumber as a joke but was not meant for here LOL

Chief Alien
Chief Alien

Not sure where I used Joe the Plumber as a joke but was not meant for here LOL

Joe the Plumber
Joe the Plumber

My girlfriend's newborn at 5am decided to cough up the rest of her lung fluid through her nose and then almost couldn't breathe.

So I can not complain about no sleep.

I spent 3 years volunteering doing street outreach helping homeless street kids with Stand Up For Kids.

I never have a bad day.

I watched a video to help with stress management in the 90's. The speaker asked the audience to give a 1 to 100 number and rank things starting with gridlock traffic which people ranked as a 90. But as he brought up more serious things in the end Traffic wound up a 10.

It is all situation and personal perspective and too many people forget they are so lucky they have no idea.

Joe the Plumber
Joe the Plumber

My girlfriend's newborn at 5am decided to cough up the rest of her lung fluid through her nose and then almost couldn't breathe.

So I can not complain about no sleep.

I spent 3 years volunteering doing street outreach helping homeless street kids with Stand Up For Kids.

I never have a bad day.

I watched a video to help with stress management in the 90's. The speaker asked the audience to give a 1 to 100 number and rank things starting with gridlock traffic which people ranked as a 90. But as he brought up more serious things in the end Traffic wound up a 10.

It is all situation and personal perspective and too many people forget they are so lucky they have no idea.

Joe the Plumber
Joe the Plumber

My girlfriend's newborn at 5am decided to cough up the rest of her lung fluid through her nose and then almost couldn't breathe. So I can not complain about no sleep. I spent 3 years volunteering doing street outreach helping homeless street kids with Stand Up For Kids. I never have a bad day. I watched a video to help with stress management in the 90's. The speaker asked the audience to give a 1 to 100 number and rank things starting with gridlock traffic which people ranked as a 90. But as he brought up more serious things in the end Traffic wound up a 10. It is all situation and personal perspective and too many people forget they are so lucky they have no idea.

ExapatDoctorMom
ExapatDoctorMom

Love the parables!

Most of the time it is easy to put it into perspective and know that it is very likely there is someone else having a worse day!

Cheers,
Rajka

ExapatDoctorMom
ExapatDoctorMom

Love the parables!

Most of the time it is easy to put it into perspective and know that it is very likely there is someone else having a worse day!

Cheers,
Rajka

ExapatDoctorMom
ExapatDoctorMom

Love the parables! Most of the time it is easy to put it into perspective and know that it is very likely there is someone else having a worse day! Cheers, Rajka

Lisa Gerber
Lisa Gerber

sorry, but I can never see you in the same way after the sheep video. done. You are forever a sheep expert in my mind.

but in all seriousness - this is something we need to be reminded of every. day. so thank you. I whine a LOT about not being with my husband right now. a lot. I know. and yet, people lose their spouses forever, or they are overseas in Afghanistan and go years without seeing each other. Then I have to remember how fortunate I am.
We have to put each situation in perspective and remember that we could be a snail. so thank you.

Lisa Gerber
Lisa Gerber

sorry, but I can never see you in the same way after the sheep video. done. You are forever a sheep expert in my mind.

but in all seriousness - this is something we need to be reminded of every. day. so thank you. I whine a LOT about not being with my husband right now. a lot. I know. and yet, people lose their spouses forever, or they are overseas in Afghanistan and go years without seeing each other. Then I have to remember how fortunate I am.
We have to put each situation in perspective and remember that we could be a snail. so thank you.

Lisa Gerber
Lisa Gerber

sorry, but I can never see you in the same way after the sheep video. done. You are forever a sheep expert in my mind. but in all seriousness - this is something we need to be reminded of every. day. so thank you. I whine a LOT about not being with my husband right now. a lot. I know. and yet, people lose their spouses forever, or they are overseas in Afghanistan and go years without seeing each other. Then I have to remember how fortunate I am. We have to put each situation in perspective and remember that we could be a snail. so thank you.

Tara Rodden Robinson
Tara Rodden Robinson

Hi Danny,

Thanks so much for the post and the great shot of perspective. I laughed out loud imagining that poor snail. Well done!

With best wishes,
Tara

Tara Rodden Robinson
Tara Rodden Robinson

Hi Danny, Thanks so much for the post and the great shot of perspective. I laughed out loud imagining that poor snail. Well done! With best wishes, Tara

Keith Davis
Keith Davis

Hi Danny

"Is it really all that bad?"

Got a wife, got a job, got a family... got a blog, and Andy Murray is still in Wimbledon, pretty good really.

Having said that, will you please allow me just the occasional rant and moan?

Danny
Danny

Agree completely, mate - the physical has a huge impact on the mental state. I know if I'm sore anywhere, it puts a huge dent in my day. When, in reality, I can just take an Advil and get on with it... ;-)

Danny
Danny

Agree completely, mate - the physical has a huge impact on the mental state. I know if I'm sore anywhere, it puts a huge dent in my day. When, in reality, I can just take an Advil and get on with it... ;-)

Danny
Danny

"Material things don’t make our days. It’s our health and the people in our lives that do."

There's absolutely nothing more to add here, Ingrid - perfectly stated.

And a snail parable, eh..? ;-)

Danny
Danny

"Material things don’t make our days. It’s our health and the people in our lives that do." There's absolutely nothing more to add here, Ingrid - perfectly stated. And a snail parable, eh..? ;-)

Danny
Danny

Haha, thanks miss, and I'll continue to try keep you coming back!

Danny
Danny

Haha, thanks miss, and I'll continue to try keep you coming back!

Danny
Danny

Hey there Howie,

That's such a powerful example, mate. I feel for you guys - when my little boy was born, he hadn't cleared the fluids properly from his lungs, so he was being pumped and massaged for what seemed like an eternity.

Thankfully he's okay, but it was really scary for a while. Here's to kids, mate.

Danny
Danny

Hey there Howie, That's such a powerful example, mate. I feel for you guys - when my little boy was born, he hadn't cleared the fluids properly from his lungs, so he was being pumped and massaged for what seemed like an eternity. Thankfully he's okay, but it was really scary for a while. Here's to kids, mate.

Danny
Danny

Very true, Rajka - I see kids in raggy clothes going to school and know my day can't be as bad as these kids'. All about perspective.

Danny
Danny

Very true, Rajka - I see kids in raggy clothes going to school and know my day can't be as bad as these kids'. All about perspective.

Danny
Danny

Great points, miss. Like you say, there is always someone having a worse day than us (for the most part, anyhoo).

That's not to say our days aren't as bad - but it's nice to remind ourselves that it could be a lot worse.

And yes... the sheep... ;-)

Danny
Danny

Great points, miss. Like you say, there is always someone having a worse day than us (for the most part, anyhoo).

That's not to say our days aren't as bad - but it's nice to remind ourselves that it could be a lot worse.

And yes... the sheep... ;-)

Danny
Danny

Great points, miss. Like you say, there is always someone having a worse day than us (for the most part, anyhoo). That's not to say our days aren't as bad - but it's nice to remind ourselves that it could be a lot worse. And yes... the sheep... ;-)

Danny
Danny

Hehe, then my work here is done, Tara - cheers! :)

Danny
Danny

Hehe, then my work here is done, Tara - cheers! :)

Danny
Danny

Permission granted, sir - and trust the Scots to keep British hopes alive... ;-)