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bad day

We all have them. Bad days that make us wonder why we do what we do, whether in our own business or for our employer.

Or we wonder why we’re with our partners when we have an argument. Or we see the size of our email inbox and wish we could just skip the day and begin again tomorrow.

But are we really having such a bad day?

I took my dogs out for a walk this morning, and one of them crapped on a snail. I mean, seriously – how bad does your day have to be to look up and find that someone is shitting on your house?

So, yeah, we may be having bad days. But do they compare to a child beaten and abused by their parents, or bullied at school?

Do they compare to a good, law-abiding person fighting terminal illness and wondering why that rapist lived to 97?

Do they compare to people that are jailed and tortured for wanting to live in a democracy?

Maybe we feel like nothing can be worse than the day we’re currently having. But if all we have to complain about is the noise of social media, or the commute to work, or the amount of emails we still have to answer, or the waitress not getting our drink order right, or a myriad of other things, ask yourself one thing.

Is it really all that bad?

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85 Comments on "So You’re Having a Bad Day"


Walter
3 years 7 months ago

To be honest, having a bad day, whether of small or gigantic proportion, has the same effect on the person experiencing it. I believe that looking at the bright side of life is the best way to veer our focus on such negative experience.

Just a thought. :-)

Social Marketing Dynamics
3 years 8 months ago

There is always someone who has it worse. And we really need reality check sometimes. And it true that we should always look at the bright side or think positively whenever we experience bad day.

Barry
3 years 8 months ago

Isn’t it true we all need a reality check sometimes? Often after checking the bank balance lol. I am reading a book that was shared to me called 90 Minutes in Heaven. I am not a deeply religious man (although leaning more as I am getting older) the man in the book is basically going through hell after a tragic car accident. The pain could get no worse. Now this part will sound crazy coming from a guy who’s tribe involved the parting of the red sea ;), but he then thought about Jesus and the pain he went though. Nothing could compare. Now even I can realize no matter what I believed, he was tortured without mercy. It actually made me close the book and ponder my own life. Seems since I just read your post and just reading this book, a message is trying to get through to me.

Have a great weekend and thanks for posting.

ryder
3 years 8 months ago

AT least you made my day..ha ha..just when I thought I was having a bad day. I woke up feeling so empty..for no reason whatsoever,…well the truth is there was but…

Alex
3 years 8 months ago

I feel you! We all have bad days but if we always look on the positive side, it will stop us from comparing our lives to other people.

Extreme John
3 years 8 months ago

I agree with Ari – everything is relative. Whilst it may be too bad of a day for you but for some, it may just be ordinary. I could say having a bad day depends really on a person’s mood and physical state – sometimes it’s just a mind over matter thing. But what’s important is at the end of a day, you can still hope for a positive tomorrow.

3 years 8 months ago

Agree completely, mate – the physical has a huge impact on the mental state. I know if I’m sore anywhere, it puts a huge dent in my day. When, in reality, I can just take an Advil and get on with it… ;-)

Ari Herzog
3 years 8 months ago

Everything is relative. One person’s good is another’s bad, and when you look at everything in a vacuum, what’s really bad and what’s really good?

Deep questions, Danny. Bring ‘em on.

Ingrid Abboud
3 years 8 months ago

You must have read my state of mind this morning Danny because what you said here is very close to what I was thinking.

You’re right in that we all have bad days – and we can sit and whine about them as much as we want – but if we take just one second and compare ourselves to those people who don’t have 1/100th of what we have then we’ll realize that our bad day is a blessing compared to others.

I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. And while all I could think of is me, me, me and all that’s wrong in my life and what I should have and could have done better or more of – I took a small step back once I was done and laughed at myself. I reminded myself to think of the 98% that’s good instead of the 2% that’s bad. Wouldn’t it be great if we could all remember to focus on that 98 percent more often?

It’s often a matter of perspective. If you can realize or acknowledge what you already have that’s amazing instead of what you don’t, then you might laugh at your bad day a little more often.

I’ve lived in the third world so I know those people who are fighting for democracy are. The one’s who are fighting for the bare minimum.

Material things don’t make our days. It’s our health and the people in our lives that do. I hope to remember that more often myself.

Thanks for writing the post that I wish I had written myself. You continue to be such an inspiration my dear friend.

Wishing you and your family a wonderful weekend.
Cheers

PS – As for your dog and snail story – I think there’s an amazing story/lesson there that I’d love to read in The Parables of Business II someday ;).

3 years 8 months ago

“Material things don’t make our days. It’s our health and the people in our lives that do.”

There’s absolutely nothing more to add here, Ingrid – perfectly stated.

And a snail parable, eh..? ;-)

margie clayman (@margieclayman)
3 years 8 months ago

Ready for my most insightful comment ever?

This post is the kind that keeps me coming back to your blog again and again :)

Yeah…try to digest THAT thought. Oh, you’re done already…hmm….:)

3 years 8 months ago

Haha, thanks miss, and I’ll continue to try keep you coming back!

Chief Alien
3 years 8 months ago

Not sure where I used Joe the Plumber as a joke but was not meant for here LOL

Joe the Plumber
3 years 8 months ago

My girlfriend’s newborn at 5am decided to cough up the rest of her lung fluid through her nose and then almost couldn’t breathe.

So I can not complain about no sleep.

I spent 3 years volunteering doing street outreach helping homeless street kids with Stand Up For Kids.

I never have a bad day.

I watched a video to help with stress management in the 90’s. The speaker asked the audience to give a 1 to 100 number and rank things starting with gridlock traffic which people ranked as a 90. But as he brought up more serious things in the end Traffic wound up a 10.

It is all situation and personal perspective and too many people forget they are so lucky they have no idea.

3 years 8 months ago

Hey there Howie,

That’s such a powerful example, mate. I feel for you guys – when my little boy was born, he hadn’t cleared the fluids properly from his lungs, so he was being pumped and massaged for what seemed like an eternity.

Thankfully he’s okay, but it was really scary for a while. Here’s to kids, mate.

ExapatDoctorMom
3 years 8 months ago

Love the parables!

Most of the time it is easy to put it into perspective and know that it is very likely there is someone else having a worse day!

Cheers,
Rajka

3 years 8 months ago

Very true, Rajka – I see kids in raggy clothes going to school and know my day can’t be as bad as these kids’. All about perspective.

Lisa Gerber
3 years 8 months ago

sorry, but I can never see you in the same way after the sheep video. done. You are forever a sheep expert in my mind.

but in all seriousness – this is something we need to be reminded of every. day. so thank you. I whine a LOT about not being with my husband right now. a lot. I know. and yet, people lose their spouses forever, or they are overseas in Afghanistan and go years without seeing each other. Then I have to remember how fortunate I am.
We have to put each situation in perspective and remember that we could be a snail. so thank you.

3 years 8 months ago

Great points, miss. Like you say, there is always someone having a worse day than us (for the most part, anyhoo).

That’s not to say our days aren’t as bad – but it’s nice to remind ourselves that it could be a lot worse.

And yes… the sheep… ;-)

Tara Rodden Robinson
3 years 8 months ago

Hi Danny,

Thanks so much for the post and the great shot of perspective. I laughed out loud imagining that poor snail. Well done!

With best wishes,
Tara

3 years 8 months ago

Hehe, then my work here is done, Tara – cheers! :)

Keith Davis
3 years 8 months ago

Hi Danny

“Is it really all that bad?”

Got a wife, got a job, got a family… got a blog, and Andy Murray is still in Wimbledon, pretty good really.

Having said that, will you please allow me just the occasional rant and moan?

3 years 8 months ago

Permission granted, sir – and trust the Scots to keep British hopes alive… ;-)

Keith Davis
3 years 8 months ago

British Danny… British. LOL

tjang
3 years 8 months ago

yeah I’m agree too with John that: “Bad is relative” but you are right when you ask, “was it really that bad of a day?”. As you know , today I got a bad day from morning until afternoon i always make a mistake to my job and also my boss so fussy…uhh bad day , i hope tomorrow will be my lucky day

3 years 8 months ago

Ah, bosses – the curators of bad days worldwide since the first job. ;-)

Mimi Meredith
3 years 8 months ago

Great post and awesome comments! I think @Tor Lowkrantz makes a really good point, though. Sometimes, our frustrations or pain shouldn’t be explained away with “it could be worse” comparisons. Nor should we minimize another’s story with that approach. I think bad days serve a great purpose because, without them, we wouldn’t appreciate the simple beauty of an uncomplicated day. But when we start to see ourselves as “The One Who Has Bad Days” and the victim of our circumstances, then we become a pathetic excuse of a person denying our full potential. So how do we tell which we are? Listen to the way you describe your life. Do you talk about the simple joys, the small victories and the good that can be found in even desperate circumstances? Or, are you Eeyore on two legs helplessly sustaining one blow after the other waiting to be rescued? At times, we’re a little of both and need a good friend or a Danny Brown post about a snail, to snap us out of it! As my delightful spousal unit says, “Somedays you’re the windshield and somedays, you’re the bug.”

3 years 8 months ago

“Sometimes you’re the windshield and somedays, you’re the bug.”

Awesome, Mimi – I think I want that on a tee-shirt! And perfect analogy, too. :)

Eugene
3 years 8 months ago

Seriously Danny, you can’t be taking me on an emotional roller coaster like that. You went from having me literally lol about the snail-shitting to feeling bad about laughing the very next sentence.

3 years 8 months ago

Okay, consider me ready to correct for future reference, mate. :)

Jk Allen
3 years 8 months ago

I don’t have bad days. I just can’t put myself to be so selfish to say that I had a bad day. How could I when my wife and kids are healthy. I’m healthy. When I was blessed enough to wake up in the morning. Some people don’t get that benefit of waking up.

I wake up every single morning with a smile. And go to bed the same way. In the delta (the time between) – I surely face obstacles that upset me…I stump my toe, bang my ankle and all that – but I live in the scheme of things…my perspective is in a place of appreciation because I know that EVERYTHING that I have today, can be gone tomorrow. So since I still have it, not matter the fat lips I get or the punches in the chest – it was a pretty good day.

PEACE

3 years 8 months ago

Dude, we can all learn from you. That is all. :)

Marcus Sheridan-The Sales Lion
3 years 8 months ago

Perspective. That’s what this life is all about Danny. Some of us have none, others are in and out a state of semi-awareness and appreciation, and then there are the select few that are able to put all things in perspective at all times. As for me, I’m a work in progress, but I know that there have been times, like you mentioned above, that I felt bad for all the email in my inbox…..but yet did I think of that guy or girl that would kill for just one sign someone actually knew they existed??? Of course not….but I darn well should.

Thanks for this brother.

Marcus

3 years 8 months ago

“… for one sign that they existed.”

Man, that’s the gold right there, mate. So much difference we could make just by that simple act of acknowledgement.

Thanks for keeping us grounded, mate.

Ali Macaluso
3 years 8 months ago

Amen, Danny! So far, no one has crapped on my head today, LOL, but hey, ya never know! ;)

3 years 8 months ago

If you live in a town of tall people, I’d say the odds are making that day closer, miss. ;-)

Patti Knight
3 years 8 months ago

great post Danny. I am going to share! Thanks for putting things in perspective!

3 years 8 months ago

Thanks Patti – hopefully it helps when Gini has one of her rants… ;-)

ParkRidgeDDS
3 years 8 months ago

Excellent post…it’s one of those wake up calls that we all need on occasion to put things back into perspective. Loved the story of the snail…it’s a modern day Aesop’s fable….a great lesson learned..

Robert
3 years 8 months ago

Awesome post Danny.

As people have their core interests at heart, something that is relatively unimportant can become a more important issue to them because it affects them. Even though, in reality, their small problem pales into insignificance compared to problems faced by billions of people across the world.

Tor makes some good points above. Where do we draw the line between complaining and just getting on with it?

I think the most important takeaway from this post is that most stress is unnecessary, and a bad day is just that: one bad day in every hundred or so.

Concise and insightful as usual.

3 years 8 months ago

You know, that’s a great attitude, Robert. Like you say, mate, we all have bad days, and depending on relevance to us, some can be worse than others.

But if we’re still here to tell the tale – well, was it really that bad? ;-)

Gloria
3 years 8 months ago

Thanks for the reminder Danny, I needed that.

Jane Binnion
3 years 8 months ago

Well I was thinking that I was having a bad day actually! So thanks for that Danny :)

Tom Chapman
3 years 8 months ago

It’s good to have a quick reality check when you are starting to feel that a day is bad. Getting soaked in the rain on the way to work (this morning) isn’t great but it’s also not bad when you look at the bigger picture. At least it might have washed that snail clean!

I do think you have to be careful in comparing “bads” – there’s no comparing a mild illness that will pass in a few days to that of a life threatening condition, but different people’s thresholds vary and it’s not always fair to use the same yardstick to measure everyone.

3 years 8 months ago

Hi Tom,

So true mate. As Tor mentioned above, different people can have different tolerances and experiences, and relevance plays a huge part in that.

Thanks for the reminder, mate. :)

Elena Patrice
3 years 8 months ago

Whoo can I relate a bit to this, as life in the past two years has really taught me how to keep the bad in perspective. Looking back prior to those year, my “bad” were merely inconveniences mainly because life was more about me. To get outside myself and my deal, I deliberately began to submerge myself in circumstances that let me see and feel the bad of others and what a sobering, humbling experience. I’ve learned a lot since; life is far less about me and more about “we” and that changes everything (of which I feel incredibly blessed and grateful). Good post Danny … thank you.

Best day to you,

Elena

3 years 8 months ago

Sounds like you’ve had quite the trip, Elena. Without knowing the details, and probably guessing wrong, but from the pictures of you and your mum together, I’d say some of it has really cemented that relationship?

Elena Patrice
3 years 8 months ago

Add a my sweet 5 year old Eve to the mix and I’d say you’re sooo right … rock-solid! ;)

Kim Davies
3 years 8 months ago

Hi, Danny.

Bad and good days are matters of choice. If we choose to smile and have a good day even if we woke up on the wrong side of the bed with our hair sticking out (I’m referring to myself with the hair thing, hehehe), then our day will be good. But, if we wallow in our misfortunes and fail to see the suffering of those people who don’t have homes, food or are even dying, then our day will definitely go from bad to worse.

So, even if a good day for me would be one without this excruciating back pain, one without having to watch what I eat so that my colitis will not flare up, one without having to take tons of meds so I wouldn’t have another mild stroke or a full-blown one, that does not mean that I wouldn’t have a good day when I still have to endure all these things. I choose to start every day with a smile, even when there is really nothing to smile about. Some may say I’m crazy for doing this, but hey, I wouldn’t die by being positive all the time, right?

3 years 8 months ago

Wow, Kim, your examples are inspiring. Just goes to show we never know what others are going through – I don’t know if I could be as positive as you are. Kudos, miss!

Wes Towers@GraphicDesignMelbourne
3 years 8 months ago

Taken from your perspective, Danny, I can say that I haven’t had bad days at all. There are definitely worse things out there compared to whatever bad day we went through. Great post, mate! Makes us swallow our petty thoughts and just get on living with lesser complaints, eh?

3 years 8 months ago

I know when I feel bad, it helps get me back on track that little bit quicker. Which is nice. ;-)