Why You Don’t Need to Impress Me

Why You Don’t Need to Impress Me

Ender acrobatics

No, this isn’t an ego post. It’s not driven by, “Oh, I really need to impress that Scottish/Canadian/Brit (what the heck is he??) Danny Brown guy.”

Screw that – ego is for chumps (hat tip Shannon Boudjema for the phrase).

But you seriously don’t need to impress me.

I’m not your life mate. I’m not your boss. I’m not your editor. I’m not your parents. I’m not your font of all wisdom.

But then, you don’t need to impress these people either (more on why you don’t need to impress your boss in an upcoming post).

Nope, the only person you need to impress is yourself.

If you blog and you hit publish and know that you’re happy with the post, that’s all that matters.

If you’re in business for yourself and you know you’re doing the best you can for your clients, that’s all that matters.

If you’re employed and know you’re doing all you can in your role, that’s all that matters.

If you look in the mirror at the end of the day and know you did every thing you could that makes a difference in whatever you do, that’s all that matters.

Impress yourself. The others will follow.

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225 comments
Gel
Gel

Thank you for the blog post :)

Gel Lim
Gel Lim

Thank you for this blog post :)

ImagineBeauty_
ImagineBeauty_

I was just browsing thru your old blog post pages and came across this and found it interesting. Ego things we all have within our soul.. I can't agree you more with you on 'Impress yourself. The others will follow." It's true.. the world would find you and want to learn more of you when you begin to get good at impressing yourself, not necessarily with people in mind. The subject of 'ego,' 'approval of others' or 'impressing others' may be summarized in the following quote. "A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep." ~ Vernon Howard Because we don't see ourselves as a lion, we constantly struggle and strive for the approval of others and the world. It is as simple a fact as that when we analyze ourselves and our ego.... is it not? I enjoyed reading the post. Thanks, Danny! :)

ImagineBeauty_
ImagineBeauty_

I was just browsing thru your old blog post pages and came across this and found it interesting. Ego things we all have within our soul.. I can't agree you more with you on 'Impress yourself. The others will follow." It's true.. the world would find you and want to learn more of you when you begin to get good at impressing yourself, not necessarily with people in mind. The subject of 'ego,' 'approval of others' or 'impressing others' may be summarized in the following quote. "A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep." ~ Vernon Howard Because we don't see ourselves as a lion, we constantly struggle and strive for the approval of others and the world. It is as simple a fact as that when we analyze ourselves and our ego.... is it not? I enjoyed reading the post. Thanks, Danny! :)

DinaRuns
DinaRuns

I completely agree. If you aren't blogging for you, it would be so easy to get burned out. I like blogging and want it to remain fun and interesting.

DinaRuns
DinaRuns

I completely agree. If you aren't blogging for you, it would be so easy to get burned out. I like blogging and want it to remain fun and interesting.

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@RickManelius Exactly, Rick - how can we expect others to like/love us, if we don't even know what that means? Cheers, sir!

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@margieclayman Yes. Now be off with you! ;-)

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@Brankica Haha, that's my cat Ender. I have absolutely NO idea what the heck he was trying to achieve, but knew I needed a photo of it!! :) What are your countries, miss? I know your husband is stationed abroad a lot, so do you travel a bit too?

C.dillard
C.dillard

Agreed. Impressive business and impressive people first impress themselves!

C.dillard
C.dillard

Agreed. Impressive business and impressive people first impress themselves!

Brankica
Brankica

WTH is that in the image???I was just gonna say that you impressed me with all the Scottish/Canadian/Brit .... I mean I have multiple countries in my bio but come on, Danny, no one can ever beat you :)

Brankica
Brankica

WTH is that in the image???I was just gonna say that you impressed me with all the Scottish/Canadian/Brit .... I mean I have multiple countries in my bio but come on, Danny, no one can ever beat you :)

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@Ari Herzog It's not a post about belief, it's about impressing yourself and liking yourself first. Do that, and it'll come across in how you treat others.

Ari Herzog
Ari Herzog

@janesheeba Do, or do not. There is no try.

Ari Herzog
Ari Herzog

If you only believe in yourself, what of your customers, constituents, and employees?

Erin F.
Erin F.

@MSchechter Haha! Methinks you're lying.

MSchechter
MSchechter

@Erin F. Sadly I manage to sound exactly like the jackass I am in both written and spoken communications :)

Erin F.
Erin F.

@MSchechter I can agree with that. Some people struggle to communicate via the written word. My struggle is with the spoken one. I think my honesty still is transmitted when I speak, but it's harder to convey it because I'm nervous.

MSchechter
MSchechter

@Erin F. I mostly agree with you, but still love to disagree, so here goes :) I completely agree that you either are honest or arent (especially once you are a little older and a little more "cooked"), but that you don't always have the tools/skills to communicate that, especially in writing.

margieclayman
margieclayman

So if I agree with this post does that mean I'm just trying to impress you?

This is a real moral conundrum!

margieclayman
margieclayman

So if I agree with this post does that mean I'm just trying to impress you? This is a real moral conundrum!

RickManelius
RickManelius

Love it. I've been sticking to this motto for some time now and it's far more rewarding than "If they don't like me, what am I doing" and all that.

It's nice to be loved. But it's even nicer to just love oneself first and not having to worry about the whims of those around us. Thanks for the reminder.

RickManelius
RickManelius

Love it. I've been sticking to this motto for some time now and it's far more rewarding than "If they don't like me, what am I doing" and all that. It's nice to be loved. But it's even nicer to just love oneself first and not having to worry about the whims of those around us. Thanks for the reminder.

Erin F.
Erin F.

@DannyBrown Yes, let's. :) @OpEdMarketing

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@OpEdMarketing@Erin F. If you can find a pub that serves Loch Dhu, I'll be there in a shot, haha! And Erin - let's work on that! :)

Erin F.
Erin F.

@OpEdMarketing@DannyBrown Apparently, I'm going to have to find a way to get to Canada...

OpEdMarketing
OpEdMarketing

@DannyBrown@Erin F. I think we may be onto something here - Social Media & Scotch! As fans of your blog, happy to treat you to a Scotch and talk Social Media - will just have to find a pub that serves Loch Dhu ;0)

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@OpEdMarketing@Erin F. Yep, about 15 minutes from Oakville, not far at all. ;-)

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@Hajra Congratulations on the blog - look forward to checking it out :)

bdorman264
bdorman264

@HowieSPM@DannyBrown Shhhhh, I'm not getting my royalties yet so I'm a little short on cash.......

bdorman264
bdorman264

@HowieSPM@DannyBrown@John Falchetto I told John when we walked in "there's Howie, whatever you do, do NOT make eye contact; we will never be able to get rid of him".................

Hajra
Hajra

So true, I just started a new self hosted blog and while choosing the look and all...I had this thought, who am I trying to impress, myself or others. As long as you are happy, others will come along. Let others be impressed by what you really are!

Hajra
Hajra

So true, I just started a new self hosted blog and while choosing the look and all...I had this thought, who am I trying to impress, myself or others. As long as you are happy, others will come along. Let others be impressed by what you really are!

Erin F.
Erin F.

@MSchechter I think I should clarify. We can try to teach people to be honest, in much the same way that we're taught to tell the truth when we're kids. I think we should try to instill that value in others. Ultimately, though, it's still up to the individual person whether he or she will be honest.

Erin F.
Erin F.

@MSchechter Lorca is one of my go-to people when it comes to writing and writing philosophies and/or theories. I usually only think of those people when I'm writing poetry, but I think their ideas permeate everything I write these days. The thing about honesty is that people either are or aren't honest. People can be taught to write better (or they can hire an editor). I'm not at all sure they can be taught to be honest. That's something they have to decide for themselves.

Erin F.
Erin F.

@OpEdMarketing@DannyBrown Well, that's just not fair. I live nowhere near Oakville. I also don't know anything about Scotch, but I'm sure I would be enlightened by a night of Scotch tasting.

Erin F.
Erin F.

@OpEdMarketing I think you should write that post. I'd like to read it.

OpEdMarketing
OpEdMarketing

@DannyBrown@Erin F. Had Glenmorangie, but not 25 years, as well as Balvenie. Admittedly, never heard of Loch Dhu, but sounds really nice. I also recently discovered a nice one called Jura Diurachs 16 year old (http://www.isleofjura.com) which is also very, very smooth. I think you're close to Oakville, a night of Scotch Tasting may be in the cards with Op Ed Team :)

Erin F.
Erin F.

@DannyBrown@OpEdMarketing I think I'll let the two of you duke it out over which dram is the best. :)

MSchechter
MSchechter

@Erin F. Or who have google :) I like the idea and need to read more about it! It really is true. Nothing is more apparent in writing than bullshit. I may be a terrible, terrible writer, but the one thing I've always had going for me is that I don't try to lie to the page (at least I think I don't). I'm pretty damn flawed and pretty damn ok with that!

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@OpEdMarketing@Erin F. Nice choice, haven't had a Dalwhinnie in ages, thanks for reminding me! I have three favourites: 1. Loch Dhu - http://www.loch-dhu.com/ . All-time favourite, though very expensive so a rare treat. The trick with this one is to pour a shot measure, down it so it lines your throat and stomach, and then savour the other drams slowly. 2. Glenmorangie 25 year old - http://www.glenmorangie.com/our-whiskies/25-year-old . So smooth, and the perfect drink for any occasion. 3. Balvenie 21 year old Port Wood - http://www.whisky.com/brands/balvenie_brand.html . Much like Glenmorangie, great partner for any occasion.

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

@ImagineBeauty_ The danger with always seeking approval from others is that you'll never attain the validation you're after. People are fickle by nature, Saach - we change our minds more than some people change their diets. ;-) Go with making those that matter happy; everyone else is a bonus.

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

@ImagineBeauty_ The danger with always seeking approval from others is that you'll never attain the validation you're after. People are fickle by nature, Saach - we change our minds more than some people change their diets. ;-)

Go with making those that matter happy; everyone else is a bonus.

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

@Brankica Haha, that's my cat Ender. I have absolutely NO idea what the heck he was trying to achieve, but knew I needed a photo of it!! :)

What are your countries, miss? I know your husband is stationed abroad a lot, so do you travel a bit too?

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