Think Bigger Than You

Hi, Danny! Another post that I enjoyed reading. It's something very deep that I had to think a little ... I can't agree more with you on things you pointed out though.. I know one person from my own experience way back a long time ago whose childhood was pretty similar to the one 'bedorman264' described... I heard he was in jail, too.. and yet he made it through and became very successful in his chosen career. However, there were still things he carried with him from his childhood life - not having being able to trust people because nobody helped him trust others including himself. It seemed very difficult for him to comprehend that some people out there could indeed extend themselves to others with no expectation of return or without any preset motives for personal gains and would still be able to care about them and love them. So..it's very true, as you describe in your post above, our reactions (coming from us due to past incidents as well as people around us) to situations shape the mindset of kids, tomorrow's leaders, with positive or negative influences. Being new to your community, as I begin reading your posts, I always seem to find what you're writing very interesting and make me think lots - something that helps cleanse our soul (so-to-speak) or inspirational! I enjoyed reading this one as well. Thanks, Danny! A good read! :) [Writing in English is such a struggle for me.. I kept rewriting.. haha. I hope you get my point.] :D

Hi, Danny! Another post that I enjoyed reading. It's something very deep that I had to think a little ... I can't agree more with you on things you pointed out though.. I know one person from my own experience way back a long time ago whose childhood was pretty similar to the one 'bedorman264' described... I heard he was in jail, too.. and yet he made it through and became very successful in his chosen career. However, there were still things he carried with him from his childhood life - not having being able to trust people because nobody helped him trust others including himself. It seemed very difficult for him to comprehend that some people out there could indeed extend themselves to others with no expectation of return or without any preset motives for personal gains and would still be able to care about them and love them. So..it's very true, as you describe in your post above, our reactions (coming from us due to past incidents as well as people around us) to situations shape the mindset of kids, tomorrow's leaders, with positive or negative influences.

Being new to your community, as I begin reading your posts, I always seem to find what you're writing very interesting and make me think lots - something that helps cleanse our soul (so-to-speak) or inspirational! I enjoyed reading this one as well. Thanks, Danny! A good read! :) [Writing in English is such a struggle for me.. I kept rewriting.. haha. I hope you get my point.] :D

Hi, Danny! Another post that I enjoyed reading. It's something very deep that I had to think a little ... I can't agree more with you on things you pointed out though.. I know one person from my own experience whose childhood was pretty similar to the one bedorman264 described... I heard he was in jail, too.. and yet he made it through and became very successful in his chosen business industry. However, there were still things he carried with him from his childhood life - not having being able to trust people because nobody helped him trust others including himself. He didn't seem to know what true love was like either .. because there was no one in his childhood who taught him such deep love and how precious true love could be and how to give and receive such love. It was absolutely difficult for him to comprehend that some people out there could indeed extend themselves to others with no expectation of return (with no calculation) and yet love them truthfully. So..it's very true, as you describe in your post, reactions (coming from us due to past incidents as well as from others) to situations AND people around us shape the mindset of kids with positive as well as negative influences. I enjoyed reading this post. It reminded me of something that I had thought about as I dealt with this person way back a long time ago. A good read! Thanks, Danny! :)

Hi, Danny! Another post that I enjoyed reading. It's something very deep for my mind to get registered to and that I would have to think a little ... I can't agree more with you on things you pointed out tho.. I know one guy whose childhood was pretty similar to the one bedorman264 described... I heard he was in jail, too.. and yet he made it through and became very successful in business. However, there are still things he carries with him from his childhood life - not being able to trust people because he was not helped to trust people including himself, he still make white lies with no hesitations because that was the only way he knew how to survive in his childhood, he doesn't seem to know what true love is because there was no one in his childhood who taught him how precious true love can be and how to give and receive true love. It was absolutely difficult for him to understand that there are people out there indeed who could extend themselves to others with no expectation of return (with no calculation) and love them unconditionally. It's very true, as you indicate in your post, reactions (coming from you due to past incidents as well as from others) to situations and people around us shape the mindset of kids with positive as well as negative influences. Good read! Thanks. :)

Having flashbacks from my former life in the corporate world with this post. And being reminded why I wil never go back.

All great points but there's one that you didn't mention one important point - about becoming leaders for our own kids or to help other kids growing up in this crazy world. I see that you've touched on this in the discussion but like @bdorman264 shared with us, what we've learned as business owners, writers, team players in a work environment, etc., can be even more valuable to our next generation then with our peers. I'd like to think that's where leaders can be encouraged as well as earned.

Having flashbacks from my former life in the corporate world with this post. And being reminded why I wil never go back. All great points but there's one that you didn't mention one important point - about becoming leaders for our own kids or to help other kids growing up in this crazy world. I see that you've touched on this in the discussion but like @bdorman264 shared with us, what we've learned as business owners, writers, team players in a work environment, etc., can be even more valuable to our next generation then with our peers. I'd like to think that's where leaders can be encouraged as well as earned.

Excellent lessons on Leadership here Danny. Great leaders bring the best out of the people around them. Some of the best leaders don't fit the stereo typical mold and I think you touched nicely on that here. I think the third point is the most critical one to me. I've become much more sensitive to divisive language and extremes as of late. One of two great things I read of yours today (this and your FB post about OWS!). Be well my friend.

Excellent lessons on Leadership here Danny. Great leaders bring the best out of the people around them. Some of the best leaders don't fit the stereo typical mold and I think you touched nicely on that here. I think the third point is the most critical one to me. I've become much more sensitive to divisive language and extremes as of late. One of two great things I read of yours today (this and your FB post about OWS!). Be well my friend.

I am a volunteer Guardian ad Litem. I speak on behalf of 'at risk' kids usually in foster care. In fact, I was in court today and my current 'kid' has aged out of the system while he was in jail. He will be locked up for one more night and then he will be turned loose on society tomorrow morning. We have actually made arrangements for a place to live and 3 months rent have been paid; I just hope he can make it 3 months because he has no more chances. One hiccup and he has a 5 yr sentence in big boy jail to serve.

Is this kid going to be one of our leaders; it would probably be the proudest moment in my life if he could rise above this and make something of himself but the odds are stacked heavily against him.

I only mention this because there are no 'throw away' kids. If I can be a positive influence on just one kid it will be time well spent.

Fortunately my sons have done quite well. Now that proud papa to be is expecting your second just give them all the unconditional love you can.

I am a volunteer Guardian ad Litem. I speak on behalf of 'at risk' kids usually in foster care. In fact, I was in court today and my current 'kid' has aged out of the system while he was in jail. He will be locked up for one more night and then he will be turned loose on society tomorrow morning. We have actually made arrangements for a place to live and 3 months rent have been paid; I just hope he can make it 3 months because he has no more chances. One hiccup and he has a 5 yr sentence in big boy jail to serve. Is this kid going to be one of our leaders; it would probably be the proudest moment in my life if he could rise above this and make something of himself but the odds are stacked heavily against him. I only mention this because there are no 'throw away' kids. If I can be a positive influence on just one kid it will be time well spent. Fortunately my sons have done quite well. Now that proud papa to be is expecting your second just give them all the unconditional love you can.

Yikes! I got some major goosebumps reading this post and for all the right reasons. Every action you take can and most of the time will influence others around you whether they are your peers, family, children, or colleagues. Being a good leader requires knowing this and applying it effectively in everyday life and decisions. Great Post Danny. I'm a first timer here. Bumped into your name on another blog but I'm glad i did. Saw your blog on Social Media Examiner but never really took the time to stop by until today. Looking forward to touching base in the near future.

~AL

Yikes! I got some major goosebumps reading this post and for all the right reasons. Every action you take can and most of the time will influence others around you whether they are your peers, family, children, or colleagues. Being a good leader requires knowing this and applying it effectively in everyday life and decisions. Great Post Danny. I'm a first timer here. Bumped into your name on another blog but I'm glad i did. Saw your blog on Social Media Examiner but never really took the time to stop by until today. Looking forward to touching base in the near future. ~AL

G'Day Danny,

Well now mate, you really grabbed my attention. My first book, "The Social Manager: Let's Stop Playing At Management Training" was published in the UK back in 1984. In It, I suggested that management training was all askew. I proposed that the basic human unit in the workplace was the team, not the individual. And until such time as we taught managers how to lead teams and be more effective team members themselves,we were merely reinforcing an inaccurate concept.

Fast forward to now. You'll find lots of stuff on my blog about team development, not team building. In the workplace the team exists, it doesn't need to be built. And only last week I launched an eBook, "7 Secrets of Successful Staff Team Development."

As you're aware, I'm concerned with workplace rather than personal influence. But the fact remains that we can achieve very little in life, whether at work or otherwise, without the help of others. Five individuals doing their best can be most useful. Five individuals doing their best together create synergy--remember that Danny?--and another dimension of accomplishment altogether. I sometimes wonder if the self development gurus grasp that workplace reality! Couldn't resist that.....

It really is a great way to have fun.

Regards

Leon

G'Day Danny, Well now mate, you really grabbed my attention. My first book, "The Social Manager: Let's Stop Playing At Management Training" was published in the UK back in 1984. In It, I suggested that management training was all askew. I proposed that the basic human unit in the workplace was the team, not the individual. And until such time as we taught managers how to lead teams and be more effective team members themselves,we were merely reinforcing an inaccurate concept. Fast forward to now. You'll find lots of stuff on my blog about team development, not team building. In the workplace the team exists, it doesn't need to be built. And only last week I launched an eBook, "7 Secrets of Successful Staff Team Development." As you're aware, I'm concerned with workplace rather than personal influence. But the fact remains that we can achieve very little in life, whether at work or otherwise, without the help of others. Five individuals doing their best can be most useful. Five individuals doing their best together create synergy--remember that Danny?--and another dimension of accomplishment altogether. I sometimes wonder if the self development gurus grasp that workplace reality! Couldn't resist that..... It really is a great way to have fun. Regards Leon

inspiring stuff danny and quite informative. A lot of people get influence by those around them. Its important to keep that in mind as people get influenced by their friends without realising it, those influences are not always positive.

inspiring stuff danny and quite informative. A lot of people get influence by those around them. Its important to keep that in mind as people get influenced by their friends without realising it, those influences are not always positive.

If you sense those around you don't want to think AND DO bigger than you or them, perhaps it's time to change rooms. Motivating yourself to think bigger is tough, you need to look tirelessly for those who will kick your butt. And do same if others ask you for help for them to think AND DO bigger.

If you sense those around you don't want to think AND DO bigger than you or them, perhaps it's time to change rooms. Motivating yourself to think bigger is tough, you need to look tirelessly for those who will kick your butt. And do same if others ask you for help for them to think AND DO bigger.

But Danny if everyone was a leader there would be no followers, no minions, no sidekicks, no lemmings. And if there were no followers, minions, sidekicks, or lemmings to lead....then how can anyone be a leader. You really are putting a universal balance of power at risk of collapsing into total anarchy.

Sometimes Danny I wish you would toss your ideas my way for approval. This is how the world gets in trouble.

So now that I am here I will edit this into a format more suitable for keeping the status quo. Maybe the Middle East is experiencing the wonders of freedom but not here this blog no Sir.

But Danny if everyone was a leader there would be no followers, no minions, no sidekicks, no lemmings. And if there were no followers, minions, sidekicks, or lemmings to lead....then how can anyone be a leader. You really are putting a universal balance of power at risk of collapsing into total anarchy. Sometimes Danny I wish you would toss your ideas my way for approval. This is how the world gets in trouble. So now that I am here I will edit this into a format more suitable for keeping the status quo. Maybe the Middle East is experiencing the wonders of freedom but not here this blog no Sir.