Don't fear fear

There’s a lot of fear at the minute. Fear of knowing is joining fear of the unknown as a staple in our lives.

Knowing the economy sucks leading to a future unknown.

Knowing we can’t stand around but not knowing what first steps to take.

Knowing you want to try something new but so many unknown things to learn.

But you know, fear is a good thing. Fear is what spurns us to experiment. Fear is what leads us to overcoming hurdles and reaching far higher plateaus on the other side. In short, fear is our friend.

It’s right to be afraid. That’s common sense. We know that we’re not in the greatest of times – anyone who says otherwise isn’t accepting the facts.

But when we accept that truth and face the fear it brings, we can work on it.

We can use the fear.

You may have been laid off. You might be in a job where there are planned redundancies. You might run your own business where clients are shrinking. You might have more time on your hands now than you did three months ago, six months ago. Use it.

Connect that time with your fear. Make yourself a deal that you’ll become master of your own destiny. Use the time to learn new skill sets, to meet new people, to widen your community of knowledge and prospects.

Brush up on your core strengths and add to them. Use the tools around you to see what people are looking for, what businesses are looking for. We have never had so much free information at our fingertips – use it.

The best resource tool on the planet is one mouse-click away. It doesn’t matter if it’s Google, Twitter, a Facebook group, a LinkedIn forum, online community, online encyclopedia or whatever. The tool you need for the fear you have is right there in front of you. All you need to do is find it.

Fear is a stumbling block. But we only stumble if we’re in the dark.

Isn’t it time we switched the lights on?

65 comments
Joe Lee
Joe Lee

Fear can be daunting. But it is also a defense mechanism wanting to protect us. Being conscious about fear and leverage on it is great. However, for most it is unconscious and they allow fear to control their action rather than the other way round. 

Joe Lee
Joe Lee

Fear can be daunting. But it is also a defense mechanism wanting to protect us. Being conscious about fear and leverage on it is great. However, for most it is unconscious and they allow fear to control their action rather than the other way round. 

Mark Longbottom
Mark Longbottom

You must sleep with the lights on Danny, as ever SO switched on :)

Mark Longbottom
Mark Longbottom

You must sleep with the lights on Danny, as ever SO switched on :)

rdopping
rdopping

Maybe even getting out from behind your screen and meeting some people is on the menu of things we fear. Have you all read The Flinch? Julien Smith is a thoughtful guy and that book is short. It allay's some os what is being said here. Easy to find.

 

 @DannyBrown you hit on a topic here that EVERYONE struggles with from time to time. It's very, very difficult to remain optomistic when you are struggling mentally, physically or financially. I don't have any answers but like @Deeone Higgs said in his response you have to try and build your confidence back but by bit. Man, humanity is so frail at time.

 

Serious this time, huh?

rdopping
rdopping

Maybe even getting out from behind your screen and meeting some people is on the menu of things we fear. Have you all read The Flinch? Julien Smith is a thoughtful guy and that book is short. It allay's some os what is being said here. Easy to find.    @DannyBrown you hit on a topic here that EVERYONE struggles with from time to time. It's very, very difficult to remain optomistic when you are struggling mentally, physically or financially. I don't have any answers but like @Deeone Higgs said in his response you have to try and build your confidence back but by bit. Man, humanity is so frail at time.   Serious this time, huh?

Wade Balsdon
Wade Balsdon

I believe that facing fear head on is the way to go. I use to be quite fearful and more than half the time, things did not turn out half as bad. Attack fear brutally and you should come out on top more often than not. 

Wade Balsdon
Wade Balsdon

I believe that facing fear head on is the way to go. I use to be quite fearful and more than half the time, things did not turn out half as bad. Attack fear brutally and you should come out on top more often than not. 

Andrea T.H.W.
Andrea T.H.W.

Every government knows how to use fear to control people so it makes sense that we can use fear at our own advantage. And those who disagree with the fact that we're not living in the greatest of times are those who are either benefitting from it or those who are not living into it like politicians, big dogs, banks which are just becoming richer and so on. If the bigger part of the population is becoming poorer it just means that a smaller part is becoming richer (think about India or China); looking at who's becoming richer also shows who has planned or facilitated this worldwide crisis. Or we can still believe in unicorns and gold pots at the end of the rainbow.

 

Anyway, sorry for digressing a little, fear can be used as a spring to push us on toward a better life but most of the times fear just blocks us and makes us controllable by those who know how to use it like the employee using fear of redundancy to have workers abandon their rights to keep their job. But as you rightly say we can use this fear to learn something new and get a new job or going solo.

 

I usually prefer the term prudence instead of fear as being prudent it means that anyway you're moving while being scared usually means you're just hiding yourself from dangers and remaining still is usually good only for fawns but everything you say is definitely correct.

 

Think how many are using Google+ only because they're scared about Google slashing thir website. Fear is extremely powerful.

Andrea T.H.W.
Andrea T.H.W.

Every government knows how to use fear to control people so it makes sense that we can use fear at our own advantage. And those who disagree with the fact that we're not living in the greatest of times are those who are either benefitting from it or those who are not living into it like politicians, big dogs, banks which are just becoming richer and so on. If the bigger part of the population is becoming poorer it just means that a smaller part is becoming richer (think about India or China); looking at who's becoming richer also shows who has planned or facilitated this worldwide crisis. Or we can still believe in unicorns and gold pots at the end of the rainbow.   Anyway, sorry for digressing a little, fear can be used as a spring to push us on toward a better life but most of the times fear just blocks us and makes us controllable by those who know how to use it like the employee using fear of redundancy to have workers abandon their rights to keep their job. But as you rightly say we can use this fear to learn something new and get a new job or going solo.   I usually prefer the term prudence instead of fear as being prudent it means that anyway you're moving while being scared usually means you're just hiding yourself from dangers and remaining still is usually good only for fawns but everything you say is definitely correct.   Think how many are using Google+ only because they're scared about Google slashing thir website. Fear is extremely powerful.

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

For once Danny, I disagree. Fear itself is horrible, crushing and destabilizing. STRENGTH is what we should embrace.... the ability to overcome and therefore diminish fear. I am not being contrary... I get your point.

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

For once Danny, I disagree. Fear itself is horrible, crushing and destabilizing. STRENGTH is what we should embrace.... the ability to overcome and therefore diminish fear. I am not being contrary... I get your point.

jonharules
jonharules

I've explored quite the opposite results of fear on a previous post http://ijustdid.org/2012/04/fear/ but you are right about the need to face our fears, to go past through the darkness and do that which we're afraid to do. 

jonharules
jonharules

I've explored quite the opposite results of fear on a previous post http://ijustdid.org/2012/04/fear/ but you are right about the need to face our fears, to go past through the darkness and do that which we're afraid to do. 

DKKipp
DKKipp

Thank you, Danny. So many times in our lives we encounter the right person or message at just the right time. This post has done that for me. I won't go into the lengthy details, suffice it to say that two deaths in the family, a cancer diagnosis for my husband, a job that's going nowhere, and more all grip me with fear. But I'm not afraid. I've learned to take one day at a time, one step at a time. The lights are on and there's a bright future ahead!

DKKipp
DKKipp

Thank you, Danny. So many times in our lives we encounter the right person or message at just the right time. This post has done that for me. I won't go into the lengthy details, suffice it to say that two deaths in the family, a cancer diagnosis for my husband, a job that's going nowhere, and more all grip me with fear. But I'm not afraid. I've learned to take one day at a time, one step at a time. The lights are on and there's a bright future ahead!

wmwebdes
wmwebdes

"Fear is a stumbling block. But we only stumble if we’re in the dark."

You're at it again with those great one-liners.

 

One of the reasons that I'm building up my web design business is planning for the future.

Guess I'm "adding to my core strengths" as you put it and... it's pretty interesting.

wmwebdes
wmwebdes

"Fear is a stumbling block. But we only stumble if we’re in the dark." You're at it again with those great one-liners.   One of the reasons that I'm building up my web design business is planning for the future. Guess I'm "adding to my core strengths" as you put it and... it's pretty interesting.

Maria Stevens
Maria Stevens

I love this post Danny! I believe fear of ...just about anything - the unknown, failure, risk, mistakes...can be absolutely crippling. In my opinion, it is THE main reason people don't take action, don't make progress and don't get the results they're after...and exactly the reason why the many training programs out there aren't effective with long lasting results. Though the information is good - if we don't first address what's holding us back (fear) we won't implement anything new that we learn!!! Can you tell you struck a chord??? Thank you for the post!

Maria Stevens
Maria Stevens

I love this post Danny! I believe fear of ...just about anything - the unknown, failure, risk, mistakes...can be absolutely crippling. In my opinion, it is THE main reason people don't take action, don't make progress and don't get the results they're after...and exactly the reason why the many training programs out there aren't effective with long lasting results. Though the information is good - if we don't first address what's holding us back (fear) we won't implement anything new that we learn!!! Can you tell you struck a chord??? Thank you for the post!

Ryan Hanley
Ryan Hanley

 @DannyBrown 

 

I really like the concept that Fear drives us to Experiment.

 

I couldn't agree with this more.  When we're afraid of the future we'll do anything to not be afraid which can mean experiment.

 

The only problem is that some people go the other way and allow fear to cripple them... Instead of experimenting and finding a new path they choose to run and hide from their fears.

 

Great thoughts dude!

 

Ryan H.

Ryan Hanley
Ryan Hanley

 @DannyBrown    I really like the concept that Fear drives us to Experiment.   I couldn't agree with this more.  When we're afraid of the future we'll do anything to not be afraid which can mean experiment.   The only problem is that some people go the other way and allow fear to cripple them... Instead of experimenting and finding a new path they choose to run and hide from their fears.   Great thoughts dude!   Ryan H.

TheJackB
TheJackB

Fear can be a tool and something that doesn't have to be seen solely in negative terms but sometimes it doesn't matter what you do- that bitch still gets you by the balls and you have to deal with it.

Deone_Higgs
Deone_Higgs

Awesome post here, Danny! I would totally agree with you!I've been unemployed now from my cushy flight attendant job, for over three years. When I was first laid off, I had no idea what I was going to do. Shortly after that happen, my mother's cancer returned, and she lost the fight not long after that. So there I was broke, depressed, and scared out of my mind, because I had not one drop of certainty about the direction my life was heading.

 

Long story short, I started blogging to cope with losing my mother - 6 months into blogging I was finding myself, and the person I was uncovering was actually even better than the person that I was before it all took place. Had I let my fear and limiting belief of my abilities at the time, keep me from "doing something." I would have surely missed out on the many opportunities that continue to unfold for me.  

 

Fear... gotta love it! Sometimes it's only there to keep us from doing something truly amazing with our lives. Thanks for the sharpening, mate! :) 

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @rdopping  @Deeone Higgs Hi mate, I haven't read The Flinch yet, but keep hearing good things about it, so will have to rectify.

 

And yes, we all have different answers and different ways to deal - but the key thing *IS* to do something and fight back.

 

Cheers, sir!

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @rdopping  @Deeone Higgs Hi mate, I haven't read The Flinch yet, but keep hearing good things about it, so will have to rectify.   And yes, we all have different answers and different ways to deal - but the key thing *IS* to do something and fight back.   Cheers, sir!

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @Wade Balsdon That's a great point about severity, Wade. Often we can build things up to the point they're terrifying, when in reality they can be a lot less than we give them credit for.

 

Thanks, sir!

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @Wade Balsdon That's a great point about severity, Wade. Often we can build things up to the point they're terrifying, when in reality they can be a lot less than we give them credit for.   Thanks, sir!

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @Andrea T.H.W. I read a story today that said the reason the Sudan is still such a poor area, despite the countless aid sent their way, is that the country's top dogs have siphoned off $4 billion into their own pockets. $4 BILLION!!! Sigh...

 

I like your take on being Prudent, mate, and I think that's maybe an approach that @AmyMccTobin would like too, as she makes some great points about the opposite side of this topic.

 

And yes, Google is definitely playing to the "loss of visibility" factor, but screw that. If G+ is the only way to get more traffic through forced gamesmanship, I'll take the hit on my traffic anytime. :)

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @Andrea T.H.W. I read a story today that said the reason the Sudan is still such a poor area, despite the countless aid sent their way, is that the country's top dogs have siphoned off $4 billion into their own pockets. $4 BILLION!!! Sigh...   I like your take on being Prudent, mate, and I think that's maybe an approach that @AmyMccTobin would like too, as she makes some great points about the opposite side of this topic.   And yes, Google is definitely playing to the "loss of visibility" factor, but screw that. If G+ is the only way to get more traffic through forced gamesmanship, I'll take the hit on my traffic anytime. :)

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @AmyMccTobin Completely agree that we need strength and should be embracing that wholeheartedly - but we can't reach strength without facing and overcoming fear. It's often not pleasant, but if there's nothing to overcome then there's nothing to embrace.

 

If that makes sense. :)

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @AmyMccTobin Completely agree that we need strength and should be embracing that wholeheartedly - but we can't reach strength without facing and overcoming fear. It's often not pleasant, but if there's nothing to overcome then there's nothing to embrace.   If that makes sense. :)

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @jonharules Thanks for the link, Jonha, will definitely check the post out!

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @DKKipp Wow, Debbie - I don't know whether to offer my best wishes and sincere thoughts first, or huge kudos on meeting everything head-on and not letting it beat you. It takes major strength to cope with all you're coping with at the minute, and I have nothing but the utmost respect to you for that.

 

Take care and as @wmwebdes says, here's to the very brightest of futures for you and your husband.

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @DKKipp Wow, Debbie - I don't know whether to offer my best wishes and sincere thoughts first, or huge kudos on meeting everything head-on and not letting it beat you. It takes major strength to cope with all you're coping with at the minute, and I have nothing but the utmost respect to you for that.   Take care and as @wmwebdes says, here's to the very brightest of futures for you and your husband.

wmwebdes
wmwebdes

 @DKKipp  Wish you well with the future DK.

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @wmwebdes It's definitely not boring, mate, that's for sure! And great choice in web design - people will always want to look good!

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @wmwebdes It's definitely not boring, mate, that's for sure! And great choice in web design - people will always want to look good!

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @Maria Stevens Hey there Maria,

 

It's one of these beasts that is often difficult to tame, and we don't want to take that burden on (which I think is where @AmyMccTobin is thinking with her thoughts). But, like you say, if we don't address what it is that's crippling us, we'll remain unable to move, and the fear will become more debilitating.

 

Here's to striking back!

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @Maria Stevens Hey there Maria,   It's one of these beasts that is often difficult to tame, and we don't want to take that burden on (which I think is where @AmyMccTobin is thinking with her thoughts). But, like you say, if we don't address what it is that's crippling us, we'll remain unable to move, and the fear will become more debilitating.   Here's to striking back!

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @Ryan Hanley it's ironic, given the "crippling" description, but I always think of Stephen Hawking. To face the adversity that he's had to face since University age, and still be one of the most inspiring people on the planet... Well, 'nuff said.

 

Cheers, mate!

DannyBrown
DannyBrown

 @Ryan Hanley it's ironic, given the "crippling" description, but I always think of Stephen Hawking. To face the adversity that he's had to face since University age, and still be one of the most inspiring people on the planet... Well, 'nuff said.   Cheers, mate!

Danny Brown
Danny Brown moderator

 @Deeone Higgs Damn, man, I have absolutely nothing to say to this except you epitomize all that this post is about. Here's to you, sir!

Andrea T.H.W.
Andrea T.H.W.

 @DannyBrown  @AmyMccTobin Well, isn't it true for the rest of Africa and the rest of the world? Except Tibet probably.

 

And as for Google I'll do the same, with the 50 visits a day it let me. ;)

Andrea T.H.W.
Andrea T.H.W.

 @DannyBrown  @AmyMccTobin Well, isn't it true for the rest of Africa and the rest of the world? Except Tibet probably.   And as for Google I'll do the same, with the 50 visits a day it let me. ;)

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

 @DannyBrown I get it, and I guess I'm just coming at it from a different angle.  These past few years I have had to face a lot of Fear after being laid off and starting my own business in a dreadful economy.  At times the fear made it impossible for me to work effectively if at all.  Then I decided my only path out of it was to totally discard fear... to ignore it as if it didn't exist.  Perhaps this was a mind game I played with myself, but it worked.  And now my business(es) are growing and I see light at the end of the tunnel.There are times when it's so bad you CANNOT begin to face it...

AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

 @DannyBrown I get it, and I guess I'm just coming at it from a different angle.  These past few years I have had to face a lot of Fear after being laid off and starting my own business in a dreadful economy.  At times the fear made it impossible for me to work effectively if at all.  Then I decided my only path out of it was to totally discard fear... to ignore it as if it didn't exist.  Perhaps this was a mind game I played with myself, but it worked.  And now my business(es) are growing and I see light at the end of the tunnel.There are times when it's so bad you CANNOT begin to face it...

Ryan Hanley
Ryan Hanley

 @DannyBrown It's more amazing than common words can describe... We need a poet...