We fall into comfort zones easily. We see something that works, or appears to be working, and we settle for that.
It’s understandable. After all, experimentation isn’t always fun. It can be hard work. It can backfire – results are never guaranteed.
Compare that to the safe and the tried, where we know something has been proven to be successful (relatively or otherwise), and you can see why comfort zones are easier to be part of.
Asking questions, from the skeptical analysis position (Why does that work better/worse?) or a personal fulfillment perspective (can I be paid appropriately?) is often driven by perceived audience response.
Experience with the audience will also perpetuate one’s propensity to inquire. Is the audience consistently defensive? Engaging? Inquisitive as well? Collaborative? In tune with the questioner’s personality?
Comfort is typically achieved through positive experiences and results, and unfortunately bottom line initiatives can create management styles that silently demand status quo.
Thank you for reminder to stay inquisitive.
The thing is, though, comfort zones make us lazy. They confine us, and inhibit continued learning. And once we stop learning, we stop living. Maybe not physically, but certainly mentally.
Once the learning disappears, so does the ask. And humans were built to ask.
It’s what’s helped us grow and evolve to where we are today. Seeing something new, and not just taking it at face value but asking why it’s better, or why we should even care, since the status quo has got us this far.
So if we were built to ask, why do so many of us feel afraid to do so?
If we want someone to work with us, why do we always go for the softly, softly approach as opposed to giving hard reasons why someone should work with us?
Why do we fear asking that pretty girl or good-looking guy out, when the worst they can say is no?
Why do we willingly work the craziest hours under the sun, knowing our value is so much more than we’re being paid, yet never ask for that meeting to discuss being paid for our worth?
In short, why do we accept, rather than ask?
Isn’t it about time we reversed that, and ask instead of accept?